Causes and Effects of Broken Family

Causes and Effects of Broken Family

 

 

            Family is the basic unit of society. This is the most essential component of

 

a country. Governance will only be effective if the citizens are properly oriented

 

with good values and virtues, which is commonly taught by the family.

 

            A home is where a family lives. It may be alternated  to the word ‘house’

 

but a house is more appropriately  referring to the material structure, whereas

 

‘home’ refers to the intangible things that bind together the family members. It is

 

the immeasurable love and care that keeps together the mother, father and their

 

children.

 

            However, no matter how ideal a family in the terms of their relationship,

 

there are still hardships and misunderstandings that will come along the way. It is

 

just part of any relationship anyway. But, the sad part is when one of the family

 

members gave up and the others have no choice but to accept and let go. Thus,

 

the family starts to be broken.

 

Broken family varies from numerous reasons why it had to be that way.

 

But usually, misunderstanding starts from simple domestic quarrel that grows

 

impertinently damaging the long-forged relationship between the family

 

members. When a couple split up, it is the children that are greatly affected

 

scarring them physically, emotionally and socially.

 

            The most common dispute between a husband and a wife is the financial

 

issue. This is rooted when the father, which should be the provider for the family,

 

can’t give enough money for the sustenance of the whole family. A vice that

 

cannot be given up may be associated with this. Or early marriage could be the

 

reason of the financial setback. Teen pregnancies are very much high in rate in

 

the last decade. A couple that haven’t able to finish studies and started a family

 

early would likely experience difficulty in monetary aspects. An undergraduate

 

would have a hard time finding a lucrative job. Not mentioning that building a

 

family needs a steadfast preparation particularly financially.

 

            Another reason why a family has broken up is because of parental or

 

friends influence. When a third party has involved itself in the matters inside the

 

home, bad-mouthing will just likely to happen and misunderstanding will only

 

grow worse.

 

            Any relationship should be founded by unconditional love. Having a family

 

is all about sacrifice and self-denial. Lack of genuine sacrificial love is one of the

 

major reasons why couples split up.

 

            Moreover, infidelity breaks home and has been proven a million times

 

over. Infidelity starts when a husband or wife starts to be discontented with his or

 

her partner. Thus, seeking a partner that can provide the needs he or she wants

 

to fulfill. It could emotional needs, sexual desire or even financial needs. What’s

 

the key in avoiding such unfaithfulness is being very much certain on who you

 

will be marrying. Making sure that your love is enough to spend a lifetime with

 

that partner is important.

 

            On the other hand, although the couple seems to be hurtful when a split

 

up has been decided, it is the children that are taking the largest toll of having a

 

broken family. During the time when parents are fighting expressing anger to

 

each other, it is unhealthy for a child to witness it. The aggression that the

 

parents are displaying may be absorbed by the child and he might react in same

 

manner later on his life. It may also be viewed as not controlling the emotions

 

over solving a problem, thus he may be violently lash out when feeling uneasy

 

with the people around him.

 

            The impact of having a broken home usually manifests in the adolescence

 

of the child experiencing the trauma of separation. It may cause an internal

 

conflict which may result to depression, anxiety, disobedience, aggression and

 

low self-esteem. The psychological scar will likely affect on how he interact with

 

other people and how he will build relationship in his older years. The couple

 

should think over and over if it splitting up is worth ruining their child’s life.

 

            Broken family is a major problem of the society that should be given

 

enough attention. The behavior of family setup affects the social, economic and

 

political aspects of a country. It should not be taken for granted as if it will fix the

 

problem on its own.

 

            Unconditional love and eternal care should be the foundation of every

 

family. It should always be remembered to keep the family away from the

 

thoughts of separation.

 

 

 

 

References:

 

Anderson, Kerby, Broken Homes, Broken Hearts, 1994

 

Fagan, Patrick, How Broken Families Rob Children of Their Chances for Future Prosperity, 1999

 

“Broken” Homes: The Effect of Divorce on Children, August 2005